Category Archives: Reflections

Pride, the Silent Killer

Pride, the Silent Killer

Bismillaah.

May Allaah cleanse our hearts and give us all refuge from pride and arrogance, ameen.

Indeed It is the source of all evil.  It is the reason for shaytan being expelled from Paradise.  It is a cause for Allaah’s anger.

It infests a person’s heart slowly, killing the light of all that is good in the heart, until the heart becomes dead, lifeless.

It prevents a person from the honor of doing a variety of good deeds and consequently growing closer to Allaah, and receiving His pleasure and mercy.  It leads away from Paradise and straight to hellfire.

Abdullaah bin Masud (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported:  The Prophet – sall Allaahu alayhi wa sallam – said:

“He who has in his heart an ant’s weight of pride or arrogance will not enter paradise.”

Abu Said al-Khudri (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet said,

“There was a dispute between Hell and Paradise, and Hell said, ‘The haughty and proud are in me.’  Paradise said, ‘In me are the weak and humble.’” (Muslim)

Salamah bin al-Akwa (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported: Allaah’s Messenger said,

“Mankind continues to display haughtiness and arrogance until he is recorded among the arrogant and will be therefore afflicted with what afflicts them.” (Tirmidhi)

The opposite of pride is humility, or humbling oneself.  Ibn al-Qayyim says:

Humility comes from knowing about Allaah and His names and attributes, and His greatness, venerating Him, loving Him and being in awe of Him; and also from knowing about oneself and one’s faults, and weaknesses. From that may develop the attitude of humility, which means feeling helpless before Allaah, and being humble and compassionate towards His slaves, so that the person does not feel superior towards anyone, or think that he has any rights over anyone else; rather he thinks that others are better than him, and that their rights come before his. This is a characteristic that Allaah gives to those whom He loves, honours and draws close to Him.

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“Wealth does not decrease because of charity, and Allaah increases His slave in honour when he forgives others. And no one humbles himself before Allaah but Allaah will raise him (in status).”

Narrated by Muslim, 2588.  Imam al-Nawawi included it in a chapter entitled: “The recommendation of forgiveness and humility.”

Al-Nawawi said:

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “And no one humbles himself before Allaah but Allaah will raise him (in status).” This is understood in two ways: the first is that He will raise him (in status) in this world, and give him status in people’s hearts because of his humility, and give him a high status in people’s eyes. The second is that what is meant is his reward in the Hereafter, where his status will be raised because of his humility in this world.

The scholars said: It may be that both are meant, (and that his status will be raised) both in this world and in the Hereafter. And Allaah knows best.

May Allaah erase pride and arrogance from the hearts of the muslims, and increase us in humility, ameen.

Eid Mubarak!

Eid Mubarak!

Bismillaah.

Eid Mubarak!  May Allaah accept all our deeds and efforts from these past 9 days, ameen!

Those pics are of the cake I baked for the Eid.  It’s a triple layer banana chocolate cake with vanilla butter cream frosting.  I was going to make this cake from my friend Jamila’s blog, but there were some bananas on the counter that were attracting way too many fruit flies, so I decided instead to put them to use.  This is the recipe I found online.  I put candles on it, turned all the lights out and we sang “Eid Saeed”…for all of about 2 seconds…the candle wax was quickly dripping onto the cake and I was NOT about to watch my cake get ruined with cheap party store candle wax!!!  (That’s also why I couldn’t get a pic of the cake with the candles on it).

Eid has been pretty uneventful so far, with the exception of the prayer and khutbah.  We prayed at our normal spot, Masjid Bilal, looking forward to seeing all my peeps…but actually ended up seeing only one sister I know.  Actually, the atmosphere at the masjid was a lot less…exciting than previous years.  The khutbah was awesome though mashaa Allaah.  We came on home and just sort of lounged around… not really what I’m used to for Eid holidays, but alhamdu lillaah.  We usually get together with friends and/or family, but this year so many people’s circumstances have changed making it hard to get together.  For some reason this made me quite emotional.  I found myself trying hard not to cry so as not to take away any of the kids’ happiness.  I ended up just going up to my room and crying myself to sleep…my cold toes woke me up a couple hours later, lol!

I miss my family…I miss my old friends…I miss the sisters in Virginia…I miss the big yet intimate Eid gatherings between family and close friends.

So anyway yeah, I guess you could say I’ve got the holiday blues.

On a happier note, we’re – inshaa Allaah – making a trip to the countryside tomorrow to visit my husband’s khaal (maternal uncle).  His wife is my 2nd favorite lady here in Egypt (second to my MIL), such a sweet lady, so I always enjoy myself when we visit them mashaa Allaah.  And my mouth is watering thinking about the taste of cold, fresh-from-the-earth, well water…and country food!  Mmmmm mmmmm, dee-licious!  So I do have something to look forward to this Eid, alhamdu lillaah.  We also may barbecue on Thursday, inshaa Allaah.

How has your Eid been?  What types of things do you have planned for the remaining 3 days?  For fellow expats, do you miss your family and/or friends from your old community?  Do you feel particularly nostalgic and homesick on Eid?  How do you cope with those feelings?

Can’t wait to hear from everyone!

Tell Me Something Good

Tell Me Something Good

Bismillaah.

Khâlid b. ‘Umayr Al-’Adawî reports, ‘Utbah b. Ghazwân – Allâh be pleased with him – once gave us a sermon. He praised Allâh, then said:

The life of this world has announced its departure and is quickly turning away, and nothing remains of it save the likes of the last drop of water in a vessel as its possessor tries to catch it. You are moving on to an abode that has no end, so move on with the best [deeds] that you have. For it has been said to us that a rock can be dropped from the edge of Hell and fall for seventy years without reaching the bottom. Yet, by Allâh, it will be filled. Do you not then wonder? And it has been said to us that a single entrance to Paradise is as wide as a journey of forty years, yet there will come a day when it will be crowded.

I have seen myself as the seventh of seven [followers of] Allâh’s Messenger – Allâh’s peace and blessings be upon him; we had no food save the leaves of trees which put sores round our mouths. I once got a cloak which I tore in half to share with Sa’d b. Mâlik: I used half as my waist-wrap and he used the other. And yet today, there is not one of us except he has become a governor over some city – and I seek refuge with Allâh that I consider myself great and important when I am small in front of Allâh. Verily there was never prophet-hood except that it gradually changed until it ended up being a kingship, and verily you will see what the governors after us are like.

Sahîh Muslim no. 7624

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It is reported that ‘Alî b. Abî Tâlib – Allâh be pleased with him – said:

Goodness is not in your wealth and offspring being plentiful; true goodness is when your [good] deeds are plenty and you have great understanding and forbearance, and when you compete to worship your Lord. If you do good you praise Allâh and thank Him, and if you sin you beg Allâh’s forgiveness. There is no good in this life except with two types of men: A man who sins but then corrects himself through repentance, and a man who strives and hastens to get [the good] of the hereafter.

Ibn ‘Asâkir, Al-Tawbah article 13.

Some Eid Reflections

Some Eid Reflections

Bismillaah.

I know, I know…late!  But hey, better later than never, right? :)

Well, the kids have returned to school after a long break that was extended due to the fact that their school closed a week earlier than the scheduled Eid break, because of several confirmed swine flu cases.  So yeah, the break was longer than expected, but alhamdu lillaah the Eid holiday made it very enjoyable, but by the end of it everyone was ready for it to be over (cabin fever).

So the house is quiet now and I have some time to relax and just sort of lollygag as much as I want…oh yeah, and blog too :) .

I was just sitting here reflecting on the day of Eid.  As many of you are aware (maybe not some of the non-muslim readers), Eid al Adha (festival of the sacrifice) commemorates the story of Prophet Ibrahim and how Allaah ordered him to sacrifice his son Ismail.  Ibrahim, in his commitment as a believer and prophet to fulfill Allaah’s commands, took to following through with it, but not before discussing it with his son Ismail.  Ismail’s reply to his father, was for him to do as he has been ordered, and that he himself would be patient and trust in Allaah and would willingly follow through with the command of his Lord.   Because of their willingness to fulfill the command of their Lord, Allaah sent a ram to be sacrificed, instead of Ismail.  For muslims, the Eid represents a sort of recommitment and rededication to obedience to Allaah, by fulfilling His commands and abstaining from His prohibitions.  When we remember Ibrahim’s -the Father of monotheism – unwaivering commitment to Allaah and to His obedience, it should inspire us to live our lives the same way.

So anyway, back to the day of Eid.  We prayed at Masjid Bilal, our usual spot for Eid prayers, only this time we prayed indoors.  The garden out back that’s usually used was soaking wet from the surprising yet refreshing early morning downpour.  I missed praying in the garden, but I didn’t mind praying inside the mosque this time…it was nice and cozy, reminded me of the Eids back in Northern Virginia at the Saudi Ma’had.

After the prayer and sermon were over, as we were filing out of the mosque, we noticed that there was a sacrifice about to take place right outside the mosque on the patio.  There were several men holding onto and attempting to subdue a cow, preparing to sacrifice it.  When they finally were able to subdue it, and the butcher got down beside it to put the knife to it’s neck, and uttered the words, “Bismillaah, Allaahu Akbar!” (In Allaah’s name, Allaah is the Greatest!), I felt an overwhelming rush of emotions, that I can’t quite describe, and tears came to my eyes.

A little of it had to do with feeling pity and compassion for the animal, but deep inside, I knew that animal did not suffer for even one instant.  Aside from the scientific evidence which proves beyond a shadow of a doubt that the islamic way of animal slaughter is in fact the most -and probably the only – humane method…aside from this, I knew in my heart, and trusted fully, that Allaah would never command His creation to do a thing that would include mercilessness and barbarism (as some without proper knowledge have called it).

So no, the rush of emotions that I felt had more to do with a sense of amazement when as I was witnessing an act of true submission to the commands of Allaah.  Think about it for a moment if you will.  We are commanded to slaughter our animals in the most hands on, down and dirty kind of way.  Coming in close contact with the animal, feeling its warmth, looking into its eyes…putting a knife to its neck and taking its life, witnessing all that blood gushing forth as its body shakes uncontrollably cannot be an easy thing to do emotionally, psychologically, and physically.  I would bet that the average human being could not bring himself to perform such an act, even on an animal.  Nonetheless, as muslims, we have been commanded by Allaah to do just that.

It’s like Allaah is asking us, “Will you obey my commands, no matter how difficult they may seem, no matter how heavy they may seem? Will you trust that I know what’s best for you because I created you and I know you better than you know yourself?  Or will you resort to your own way of thinking and perceiving things, and try to do things your own way because your way seems to be easier and more proper?”

In many countries around the world, policy makers have actually resorted to their own ways of thinking, and you see that animal slaughtering has become a hands-off task, handled by machines, gas chambers and electrical shock devices.  It is believed that these ways are for the benefit of the animal because they (appear to) suffer less, but really, these ways are for nothing other than to ease mankind’s own consciences.  It is understandable that no normal, sane human being likes to see another living thing suffer, and because of the goriness of it, animals are perceived to suffer by being slaughtered, which is not the case, and has been proven in the above-mentioned article.

So as I was witnessing the sacrifice on Eid day, witnessing these brothers fulfilling the commands of Allaah, getting themselves covered in blood, mentioning Allaah’s greatness, remembering that Allaah chose the most merciful way for these animals to die, I felt proud to be a part of this noble religion and noble ummah, the ummah of “We have heard, and we have obeyed!”.

I felt blessed for having been guided to this way of life that has been divinely revealed by a Merciful, All-Knowing God.

I felt tranquility and inner peace, knowing that everything Allaah commands us to do, it’s out of His love for us, and His wanting only what’s best for us…even the hard stuff that takes every ounce of faith inside of me to fulfill.

I thought about prophet Ibrahim, and how extremely difficult it must have been for him to even fathom taking his own son’s life.  As a mother, I try to imagine how absolutely sick with grief I would have been had it been me.  I thought about his and Ismail’s responses to Allaah’s command, and felt an overwhelming sense of admiration and respect for them- upon them be peace.

I pray that this Eid Al Adha was so much more than just about getting new clothes, going to the parties and eating lots of delicious meat dishes.  I pray that it was a time of sincere reflection, for all of us, on our purpose in life, which is to worship our Lord, sincerely, by fulfilling His commands and keeping away from His prohibitions, ameen.